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It's time to step up and take a reality check.

If you perceive your life to be s**t and you are fed up with it being s**t, then it's time to stop blaming everyone and everything for what's wrong. Take responsibility for yourself. To quote Ghandi: Be the change that you wish to see in the world.

Adopting this notion does three things:

  • It stops us judging others
  • It encourages self reflection and takes our attention away from complaining about others
  • It catapult's us into taking action over the ONLY thing we have any control over in the world - OURSELVES

The full quote from Ghandi reads: “We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”

I know from personal experience, that when I changed the way I perceived my world, (this took some extended, and consistent and painful personal development work), and stopped blaming numerous traumatic past life experiences for the way I was and behaved, my world became a very different place. In reality the only thing that changed was the way I saw it. It was simple but NOT easy.

Any real change comes when we recognise that we have to work on our inner transformation. To examine ourselves openly, honestly, vulnerably and to face and deal with past trauma and emotional experiences that we perceive to be the fault of all that is wrong. By becoming emotionally competent and truly resilient we have to get good at recognising and releasing emotional blocks and triggers.

Believe me, you can not continue to run away from yourself.

Are you ready to be the change?


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Stop judging yourself
by what happens to your in life, so you're not basing your confidence on outside events.
Forgive yourself
and others for past mistakes. Harbouring old grudges takes up a lot of time and energy which you could be using in more productive ways.
Learn to think differently
When you fall into self-criticism, notice them and change them to positive thoughts.
Set goals/outcomes
on the basis of what you can realistically achieve, and then work step-by-step to develop your potential. Acknowledge small achievements which take you closer to your end outcome.
Emphasise your strengths
Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot.
self-confidence and self-esteem are learnt behaviour, and with practice can be built.